I Need to Talk to You About... Who You Were Before You Became Everything to Everyone Else
- vickipearson36
- Jul 12, 2024
- 3 min read

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself who you were before you started prioritising everyone else’s needs over your own? Before you became the dependable friend, the selfless partner, the tireless employee, or the ever-present parent, you were someone with your own dreams, desires, and individuality. It’s easy to lose sight of that person as we navigate the demands and expectations of daily life. This month, I want to talk to you about reclaiming your authentic self and why it’s crucial for your mental well-being.
The Trap of Self-Abandonment
Self-abandonment often begins subtly. You might start by saying yes to things you don’t really want to do, suppressing your true feelings to avoid conflict, or constantly putting others’ needs before your own. Over time, these small sacrifices add up, leading to a profound disconnection from who you truly are. This pattern of behavior can stem from a variety of factors, including societal expectations, family dynamics, and personal insecurities.
The Consequences of Neglecting Yourself
When you consistently prioritise others at the expense of your own needs, it can lead to several negative outcomes:
Burnout: Constantly giving without replenishing your own energy can lead to physical and emotional exhaustion.
Resentment: Suppressing your needs can foster feelings of resentment towards those you are trying to please.
Identity Loss: Over time, you may struggle to recognise yourself, feeling lost and disconnected from your true identity.
Mental Health Issues: Chronic self-neglect can contribute to anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem.
Reconnecting with Your Authentic Self
Reclaiming your authentic self is a journey of self-discovery and self-empowerment. Here are some steps to help you start this important process:
Self-Reflection: Take time to reflect on who you were before life’s demands took over. What were your passions, dreams, and values? Journaling can be a powerful tool for this.
Set Boundaries: Learn to say no when necessary and set healthy boundaries. This doesn’t mean you stop caring for others, but it does mean you prioritise your well-being.
Practice Self-Care: Make self-care a non-negotiable part of your routine. This can include physical activities, hobbies, relaxation techniques, or anything that nurtures your soul.
Seek Support: Therapy can be incredibly beneficial in helping you navigate this journey. A therapist can provide guidance, support, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself.
Rediscover Your Interests: Engage in activities that you once loved or try new things that excite you. This can help you rediscover your passions and bring joy back into your life.
Embracing Your True Self
Remember, reclaiming your authentic self is not about rejecting the roles you play in others' lives. It’s about finding a balance where you can be there for others without losing yourself in the process. By honoring your own needs and staying true to who you are, you can create healthier, more fulfilling relationships and a more satisfying life.
This month, I encourage you to take a moment to reconnect with who you were before you became everything to everyone else. Your journey back to your authentic self is not just about self-discovery; it's about self-respect and self-love. Embrace the person you were meant to be, and watch how it transforms your life and relationships.
Contact us today to learn more about how therapy can support you in this journey. Let’s talk about reconnecting with your true self and living a life that honors your own needs and desires.
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